Pay attention to your thoughts

There is one saying- "Thoughts become words, words become action, action becomes habits, habits become destiny."- that I find to be the mere truth. Yesteday I read Crystal Nelson's last blog post where I saw the video below. I think it is really well put.  One of the lecturers at a Strongman seminar in Crossfit Overload is talking about what Greg Amundson said about the pyramid that should express your steps toward sports mastery. What Greg said was that at the foundation of your pyramid is NUTRITION! It is the most important thing, if you consider reaching the top in your sports career. Next comes metcons, followed by gymnastics, weights and finally you apply it to your sport, and you are on the top of the pyramid. But if you dare to fall in the habit of eating junk, if you do not pay close attention to your nutrition, your pyramid will flal down, and all your hard work will go to waste.

Next the lecturer talks how at a bootcamp he was thinking about the nutrition pyramid and a thought popped up in his mind. Why not build this pyramid in a different perspective. Why not put thoughts and words on the bottom and build the pyramid till you reach your destiny. Just like in the other pyramid, where nutrition is the fuel to all other steps, here thoughts are the food that fuel your mind, and body. The fuel that drives your actions which transform in habits and lead you to your destiny.

Just like in the first case, if you let your nutrition slip, here if you let negative toughts overtake your mind, you risk taking the wrong road and thus ending in a destiny you wouldn't like for yourself.

So make sure you lay the right foundation on your pyramid, so you will make sure that at the end of your life, you will praise your destiny and not feel sorry for the way your life turned out to be!

The best advice I ever received...

A couple months ago I bought a book by Donald Trump:The way to the top . I am not a huge fan of him, and I am not gonna lie, but I did not like the book. The book second title is "The best business advice I ever received". So even though I did not like the way the book was written, it got me thinking about the best advice I have received in my life so far...

And there it pops up in my mind! An advice my dad gave me a couple years ago. I am a pretty naive person, and probably as you may guess I get disappointed by people more often than not. So it was that period of my life that I lost something I loved, and something I thought was my life. The thing was that I not only lost it but people I considered friends, people I admired left me...you know how it is-when you are at the top everybody loves you and wants to be part of your life, but when you are on the bottom it is most likely that all these people will throw some more dirt on you and dig you deeper. So that is pretty much what happened to me.

I remember that night I was crying and my dad came to me and asked me why it was so hard for me to get over it. I explained him and told him I was disappointed with people and that I am never gonna trust anybody again. I told him that I will become a cold hearted person and I will be just like the people that hurt me!...I remember his smile and the words that followed..."You should be more careful with who you'll trust, but you should keep the faith in people because if you don't you risk to miss some really worthy people in your life!"

So I think that so far that is the best thing I have learned. I really found out that people will disappoint you. They will hurt you and push you down. But it is only gonna make you stronger. It is just gonna help you find out when you meet those that are worth your attention! The once that leave will make it easier for you to distinguish those that should be part of your life...the once that will help you go through the journey-the journey of life!

It's YOUR dream...it's YOUR life!

“The people that have success have wrapped themselves around the how and why of success.” — Greg Glassman

Everybody has a dream! But few of us atcually strive to follow that dream! Most fear trying to achieve it...too scared they will fail, or maybe afraid they might actually succeed!

I have a dream too! ACtually I have more than one but there is that dream that I am really focused on! I dream of becoming a really good personal trainer, being able to help people achieve their goals, helping people change their lives. Encouraging them when they feel down, giving them motivation when they feel the lack of it. Giving them a support when everybody else in their life seems to neglect them. To me personal training is not just the exercise part! It gives you a chance to help people reach not only their athletic goals but you actually get the opportunity to help them change their life! I've said a hundred times how workouts resemble life. How the determination,motivation and desire you need to finish a workout, are qualities you need to succeed in life!

Most people in my life are totally against my dream! They find it stupid and not a way to earn a living. They think it is a waste of time and constantly tell me that I should change my priorities and get busy with something more important! Well I study Marketing...I kind of see both sides of the coin. But I am so convinced about what I want to do. I've always wanted to work something that will let me receive not only the material but also the spiritual...and to me personal training is THE THING!

Sometimes the rude words some of my family members and some of my friends say about my workouts and my goals put me down. it hurts when the closest people to you do not support you and constantly try to discourage you! But deep inside I am so sure in the rightness of what I do that nothing is gonna change the way I see my life! The way I dream my life to be!

The thing is that you should have a dream and actually chase it no matter what others say! No matter if it looks good to them or not! If it feels right in your heart, if it is something that gives you happiness and fullfilment, then go for it! Don't let others opinion direct your life!

It all sounds stupid and sappy but it’s the flippin truth. Some people will call it cheesy. Good. Let them do the talking. They’ll be the ones watching from the shore as you sail off. Wave good-bye to those not willing to share your dreams. Wrap yourself around the how and why of success. Set your course. Don’t worry about the destination, just keep your eye on the sea and a steady hand on the helm. And pick up every swimmer who’s willing to work with you . . .

Thoughts become actions

"We become, have and attract what we think about and act upon correctly the most." John Assaraf

I read an article by Josh Lifrak,that I found interesting!He is a mental conditioning coach.What he said in his article is how he keeps a large blue button in his office. On the top of the button, it clearly states in bold lettering “DON’T PUSH.” The object of this button is to avoid placing your hand on it and depressing it.

When placed in clear view most of the athletes that came into his office stared at it and during conversation. Some picked it up and hold it consumed by its presence. Some had zero will power and just slapped it defiantly. Practically all the athletes struggled with the very clear direction of DON’T PUSH. They become obsessive about the button!

I thought how much this simple story applies in our lives. When we are involved in some action, more often than not we are concentrating on the things we SHOULDN'T do!We let fear of failure controll our minds! And you know how it is sad that:

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...your thoughts become your words
...your words become your actions.
...your actions become your habits.
...your habits become your character.
...your character becomes your destiny.

That means that by letting the thought of "Don't push the button";"Don't make a fall start";"Don't mess up"...actually transforms right into reality. And you end up where you were most afraid of being!

So instead of constantly telling ourselves what not to do we could actually tell ourselves what to do! Like "Stay away from that button";"Make sure to start on time";"Do your work the right way", and so on.

Actually here comes the role of the Law of Attraction which teaches you that you must consciously choose your thoughts to manifest what you desire into your life.
We must monitor our thoughts and take the action required to get us where we want to be.

If you don't love

Love makes you give all you have in order to receive all you need...



If you don't love

You can decide the path you'll go on
You can climb the mountains beyond the limits you have
You'll be able to be anyone if you want
but if you don't love
if you don't love
you don't have a real reason for living
if you don't love
you don't love yourself and you don't exist
if you don't love
everything you do has no meaning
you can create a great empire around you
[you can] build skyscrapres and count a little more
you can buy everything you want
but if you don't love
if you don't love
you don't have a real reason for living
if you don't love
you don't love yourself and you don't exist
if you don't love
if you don't love
you don't know the meaning of little things
the certainties that you don't find and that you don't give
love waits, it isn't intrusive and it never screams
if you talk, it listens to you, it bears all and it believes in what you do
and it asks to be free to go
and when it turns back it will give you more
if you don't love
if you don't love
everything else is really useless
if you don't love
you don't love yourself
you don't exist...
without love we aren't anyone ever...
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I learned...

"Other people may be there to help us, teach us, guide us along our path, but the lesson to be learned is always ours.”

"I learned that nobody can cause me more pain than I can!
I learned that even time can't cure something that I do not want to be cured!
I learned that nobody can close a page of my life if I do not want it closed!
I learned that nobody can take away from me something that I've already lost!
What did you learn..."

Don't identify yourself with your work!

I have been thinking about something lately... I am not sure I can put in words exactly what is on my mind but right now I feel like giving it a try!

Attachment! That's what's on my mind. When I look up the dictionary it says that "attachment is an emotional connection. Attachment involves being dependent on something for emotional, mental or physical reasons." I myself do not attach easily , BUT if I do it can be pretty bad. And that is something I decided I want to change about myself. I do not wanna put my energy in just one thing and make it my main purpose, make it the sense of my life! Because everything in life is temporary...things come and go...and when you are left without the things you are attached to you feel like your whole world is falling apart!...and I assure you the feeling is...undescribably terrible!

So what I think about attachment, or actually what I think hides behind it is FEAR!The root of attachment is fear. Without fear there’s no attachment to circumstances… no emotional resistance to outcomes. If you could remain open to everything and attached to nothing, then you would experience no fear. If you would consciously chose to live a fear-based existence, then attachments are fine. But if you wish to rid your life of unnecessary fear, then such socially conditioned attachments must eventually be rejected and replaced by conscious choice.

Instead of viewing certain events as tragic, we could just choose a context in which they become transformational! Change is a natural part of human existence. Instead of resisting change, we can learn to embrace it… in all its various forms. Instead of labeling events as good or bad, we can withhold judgment and simply accept them for what they are! YOU choose your mental response to the things that happen in your life! And your mental response dictates your emotional response!

We kind of have the habit to identify ourselves with the things we do. We consider that we are a product of our work,job or whatever we are attached to, whatever we are aiming for. But it is the opposite...our work is a product of our identity, our innerself...you should identify your work with yourself not yourself with your work. I am not sure if you get my point...

We often tend to put all our energy in something and make it the point of our life...we take it as a life and death thing! But when you loose your job, when you should change your life and the daily stuff that you were involved in...it feels like you are glued with them..you try so hard to get out, but you seem stuck in them!...you spend the rest of your life trying to get rid of that attachment but it is so stuck in you,actually to you it seems like you lost yourself...and the truth is you just lost a masterpiece you created...but hey, the power is still in you, and you still can create something better taking the lessons learned!

Back in my life I was a basketball player. That was everything I lived for and everything I dreamed about! I identified myself as a basketball player, I thought that was all I am capable of doing, and I thought if something puts an end to my career I will be left with nothing..I will lose myself if I loose basketball...

I lived in a constant fear of loosing it...but you know how often when you feel such a deep fear you actually attract it and it happens...and it did! I injured pretty bad and I was not capable of playing anymore! I went through such a destroying physical and emotional pain! I struggled living for a long time...actually I still do sometimes! But today I realize that it took me so much time to overcome it, it took so much tears to take it off...just because I was so attached to it and made basketball define my life!

I am tall and I remember how when people saw me they always asked "are you a basketball or a volleyball player?"...actually they still do...I used to proudly say "I played basketball!"...and after the injury I remember getting on the bus, and somebody asked that question...I can still feel the stabbing pain...I still remember what I felt while I said "NO"...it felt like my heart was shattering inside...I felt like the biggest looser...like the person I was talking to would think I was some inferior person wasting her life...

And today I understand that there is so much more that could define your life. I realize that in our drive to achieve something, in the drive to give it everything, in the energy we put to the world outside of us...I just realized that we do this because we are desperately trying to escape the road to our innerself...we are trying to escape from who we are, we are scared to look deeper inside of us and deal with our emotions...so we try to mask them by making ourselves busy with everything else...

I still do it...I still try to make myself busy all the time because I guess I do not feel good with the person I am...I can't stay just by myself, because I am not in a peace with myself! I identify myself with the things I do and if something goes wrong I feel like a failure...and I AM NOT a failure just because something went wrong...there are so many events that influence what is happening and how things turn out...if something goes wrong...YES, you have fault but it is not just your fault and you are not a failure! You do not lose your personality, just because events did not turn out the way you wanted...you can still be a great person and bring joy to your life and people's life!

Whatever you do...take the time and think...do you identify yourself with it? Do you think that if you loose it you will feel like you lost yourself, are you going to feel like you are a second hand person? If your answer is YES, then just make me company in the road to change! Because I am gonna change that in my life, and I am gonna give my best to stop identifying my personality with my work and trying to be perfect all the time!I am not perfect...nobody is...perfection is not attainable! There is nothing wrong aiming high as long as you don't make it a matter of life and death!...I will give my best to start feeling in peace with myself and enjoying the times when I am alone...

Drive without attachment, ambition without ego, and peace without passivity!

Thank you!

I truely believe that it is in your darkest days and moments when you could experience some of the greatest things in life. It has happened to me before, happened today and hope it will happen in the future.

I do not trust too many people, actually I trust just two, three people at the most. Those are the people I could say anything, I do not always do it but I know if I feel like it they are gonna be there for me.

I really feel so blessed that I met them and that they are part of my life...and today one of them made my life soooooo beautiful! He kind of always makes life look like a piece of cake. With him by my side I feel like nothing could hurt me and like I can face everything.

I just wanted to say how greateful I am for the comfort he gives me on difficult days, for the smiles he brings when sadness intrudes, the hugs when spirits sag, the faith so I can believe, the confidence when I doubt, the courage to be myself, that he LISTENS to me when I am SILENT...and just the fact that he makes my life so complete...

Doesn't cost too much...but means the world to somebody...

“You can’t have a perfect day without doing something for someone who’ll never be able to repay you.”

I was just walking on the sidewalk... people passing by! All of them were there physically... but mentally they were far away-still in the office solving a problem,still thinking through the conversation they had with a loved one,drawned in their problems... I was there too... thinking...

It is strange how we always chase something, run after something or somebody, hoping that if we have the luck to catch them our life will miraculously change and we will live happily ever after... we run and chase those things and people, desperately trying to catch them, stumbling over,digging deeper, neglecting people that actually love us and care about us....we do all that to come to a point when we realize that no matter how far we go, how far we run away, life always leads us one way!-to the once that care about us and the once that truelly love us!

People's mind is strange...why have the secure when you could chase the wild...

Actually I kind of took a turn, and changed the theme...so let me get back on track...

I guess that I just wanted to say how people don't need much...the people that care don't need you to give them the world, bring them stars or take them to the moon...people that care just need your time and attention...it is the simplest and smallest things you do that count, and it is still the simplest and smallest things you don't do that make the difference between whether you make somebody happy or you make them suffer...

Next time when you feel bored and wonder how you can make your day worthwhile...just take the time to call somebody that cares,somebody that loves you...take the time to smile at somebody...it might make their day...take the time to make a nice gesture to somebody that cares...somebody that will appreciate it!...and who knows...it might mean the world to them...and it won't cost you much!

To feel or not to feel...

I was thinking about the things that happened to me so far, the pain or the happiness they brang;the tears and the smiles they left...I often remember the stabbing pain I've felt, but at the same time I try not to forget the joy that filled my heart.

I try to let go of the past, I try to close my eyes in front of the things that are taking place in my life now-the once that are hurting me...but deep down I can feel the pain and the sadness...they are in a constant fight with my mind...my mind tells me I shoouldn't be sad or worried...but my heart feels different.

You know how they say that you can choose either to express your emotions or hide them, but you can not controll the emotions themselves-you still have them and feel them no matter if you show them on the outside!...Real tears are not those that fall from the eyes and cover the face but are those that fall from the heart and cover the soul...

At times I wonder which one is better, to let yourself have feelings and be sad at times but happy throughout the other time; or have a heart of stone, and never feel neither sadness nor happiness...

Lately that question is taking over my mind...and the more I think about it the more perplexed I get... I may not show my emotions way too much, but I assure you that I have them and I feel them...I am that kind of person that does not need much to be happy-I enjoy little things...but I also get hurt easy. I rarely show it but way too many things hurt me, people act or say stuff that stuck in my mind and torture me. I have the bad habit of suffering the pain other people feel. I always put myself in their shoes and kind of feel their pain...so it is pretty much a burden!

I thought a thousand times that I should change and that it would be easier for me if I feel less...but that thought is hurting me twice as much! I think that if I become cold hearted I might hurt a lot of people throughout my life, and just the thought that they will feel the pain I feel now makes me suffer more...just the thought that one day I will look back and realize how bad of a person I have become just because I was scared to feel...just that is stabbing my heart...

SO for now...the question to have emotions or not is still unanswered....

Success is buried on the other side of frustration...

"I didn't fail! I just found 100 ways that don't work. – Benjamin Franklin"

“People who fail to achieve their goals usually get stopped by frustration. They allow frustration to keep them from taking the necessary actions that would support them in achieving their desire. You get through this roadblock by plowing through frustration, taking each setback as feedback you can learn from, and pushing ahead. I doubt you’ll find many successful people who have not experienced this. All successful people learn that success is buried on the other side of frustration.” ~Anthony Robins.

Hate vs Love

We can hate how we’re sad and tired most of the time, or we can love how happy and energetic we are at times. We can hate how things end when people stop caring, or we can love how things begin with new people who enter our lives. We can hate how we fail at least one or two classes, or we can love how we’re still passing the rest. We can hate how we have trouble sleeping at night, or we can love how we can make it up the day after by taking a long nap. We can hate how we can cry so much and feel like the whole world is weighing down on us with all the sadness, or we can love how we can pour everything out instead of holding it all in and being able to recover after. We can hate how we always think about the past with people that meant a lot to us, or we can love how we have those moments to treasure and remember. We can hate how ugly we think we are and feel insecure and jealous, or we can love how we have beauty that other people see and feel confident about ourselves. We can hate how we argue and disagree with some people, or we can love how we agree to forgive each other after. We can hate how the food we get isn’t what we want so we complain, or we can love that we have something to eat and remember that there are those who are starving and have nothing. We can hate how we get really sick, or we can love how we’re not even close to dying. We can hate how people make mistakes and have flaws that put us down, or we can love and accept them with the way they are and focus on how they lift us up. We can hate how there is so much negativity surrounding us in our lives, or we can love how there is still positivity that will always be there.

We should focus on what’s more important and try to change our mentality a little by simply ignoring the negative side of life and give more attention to the joy of life!. That is just the way life goes and we should just keep moving forward and go with the flow, because that’s the only way we could end up being happy and content with our life.

So, from now on, forget hate, and choose to love.

Sometimes it is ok to be weak...

"There is no person in the world who is made to handle every punch that’s thrown at them. We aren’t made that way. In fact, we’re made to get mad, upset, sad, be hurt, stumble and fall. We aren’t supposed to be able to handle everything. But that’s what makes us stronger in the end, by learning from the things that hurt us most. "

Sometimes there should be darkness in order to see the dawn...

Face your weakness

Everybody had a moment in their life when the voice inside your head starts pounding against your eardrums, telling you you’re too tired, too sick, or too weak to go on. Or a moment when you convince yourself you’re too fat to wear that dress, too old to play that sport, or too green to do that job. It’s a sensation so overwhelming that you find yourself practically submerged in it, like a liquid skepticism, viscous and disgusting. You rationalize, “Hey, it’s alright… it’s just the way things are. Those dresses are for skinny minnies, those sports are for the young bucks, and that job… well, I’ll bide my time and get there eventually.” But deep down you’re hating yourself, resenting your size, your age, your inexperience, or whatever relative weaknesses you have. You wish you were more fearless, more driven, and more secure, but life has taught you well your incapacities and it’s not your place to argue.

The truth is we’d much rather assume defeat than face our weaknesses head on—far better to avoid the mirror than risk a humiliating sidelong glimpse.

A lot of people go through their life constantly hiding from their weakness instead of facing it and getting done with it. Nowadays we live in a world where everybody is build up out of their insecurities and fears. Most people live through their fears instead of living through their dreams.

Everybody is used to finding an excuse for everything instead of for a way for everything. In order to truly grow we must be willing to live on the margins and step outside our comfort zone, in many cases risking failure. We need to tap into stores of courage and determination that most days lie collecting dust. If we don’t, they lose their potency and condemn us to chronic intimidation.

We begin to identify more with what we can’t do than with what we can. This is because, in the absence of real confrontation, our doubts become our reality. It doesn’t matter how irrational or ill-conceived the reasoning, the man obsessed with his age looks older by the day; the woman refusing to try on the dress grows less and less likely to ever wear it. If we keep inundating ourselves with notions of inability, we will always struggle to improve.

The only way to overcome doubt is to welcome it, face it, and test it. We have to invite our weaker sides onstage and see how fragile they truly are. And more often than not it turnes out that our weakness becomes our strength...just face it!

Stay positive...

I get to meet a lot of people every day. All of them are different but most of them have one thing in common-their outlook on life. And guess what! Mine ain't the same! :)

I am tired of hearing how I am supposed to enjoy my college years and get drunk every night(guess that is supposed to be fun...too bad I do not drink;) and just have fun NOW because later on life is gonna suck pretty bad. But come on! Are they serious? How is everybody supposed to be so pesimistic? Why everybody is so tired of living? Why is everybody spending their life waiting for its end?

I see life in a different light. Yea it might be hard sometimes, but after all that is what makes it interesting and worth it. That is what makes you fall and grow. That is what makes you weak and stronger.

I think most people hate life so much just because they do not live it the way they want. They live it the easier way-just do something and wait to die...they seem to adopt the pesimistic outlook on life since early age and live with these beliefs throughout their whole life....and that is where the problem comes from...You must plant flowers in the garden of your mind or you will be forever pulling weeds!

So I am not gonna talk about the way others see life I am gonna talk about the way I see it. First of all- I totally love life and enjoy it. And NO my life ain't free of sorrow, failour,betrayal and etc. But if I haven't gone through all of it, I wouldn't have been the person I am today. I think that when you overcome the bad things that life gives you, you get much stronger and you start having a positive outlook on life, because you are less likely to freak out for little stuff others freak out for. You are more likely to understand that

after every dark night there is a day

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So what do I expect out of my life? I expect living it to the foolest from the beginning to the end. I expect studying and working hard NOW in order to have the job I dream for later. I see tons of people just working something because they are supposed to. And that is why most people are so sad and depressed. After all you spend most of your life at your workplace. If you do ot enjoy it how do expect life to be fun? So that is my number one goal-to have the job I dream about! No matter what is the cost of it...I promise you that is what I am gonna do to the end of my life! :)

Next... I guess someday I am gonna have a husband and kids...I am not that kind of girl that wakes up with the thought of getting merried and wearing a big white dress... but I guess that is just part of life. So I do not think too much about it, but there is one thing I know for sure! I do not ever want to use my family and my kids for an excuse for my failure or my sad life! I see a lot of women that blame everything on their children-the way they look, the lack of time, the lack of goals and prosperity...well I think that is totally wrong!

I think that you should first be happy with yourself and the things you do, and after that you could possibly make people around you happy. And don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong to devote to your kids and family but that does not mean loosing your identity, your dreams,goals,life... The key to life is balance...

And I know it is so hard to find balance...I am costantly struggling with that :) But it is for sure worth trying! :)

Next...I hope I will learn as much as I can out of every mistake I make, I will get stronger after every hit I take, I will never let others plant seeds of self doubt in myself and the things and people I love and I believe in. I hope I will enjoy every opportunity I have to try something new and something different. I hope I will encounter things that are gonna challenge me,my beliefs and my abilities...things that will make me grow,make me smarter and build on my outlook on life.And most of all I hope I am never gonna break down to the obstacles I face in life, I hope that after years I am not gonna be one of those pesimistic people, tired of living, I hope I am always gonna see the light when darkness falls!....and remember that the way you see life will largely determine what you get out of it!

I found that video, and I think it is really touching and inspiring so go ahead and watch it...

You call it a sport...I say it's more...

Sport is where an entire life can be compressed into a few hours, where the emotions of a lifetime can be felt on an acre or two of ground, where a person can suffer and die and rise again. Sport is a theater where sinner can turn saint and a common man become an uncommon hero, where the past and the future can fuse with the present. Sport is singularly able to give us peak experiences where we feel completely one with the world and transcend all conflicts as we finally become our own potential.


One thing about me that you can not misunderstand about me is that I LOVE sports. Actually I love playing sports. Most of the time I get judged a lot about my sports addiction. Even my family does not approve my passion. A lot of people find it a waste of time and energy.

I am constantly asked why I "torture" myself like that instead of staying home or going out and having fun. They constantly tell me I should reorganize my priorities and send working out somewhere at the last places... They say there are more important things in life than being fit. They say there are better ways to spend your time instead of running,swimming,lifting weights,sweating and so on...

Well, I am actually sick of what they are saying. What is importnat is what I am saying! They do not wanna hear me...That's fine... But to me...sports are not a waste of time, not lack of socializing, not a torture or a way to exhaust myself. I see it that way:

During the day we meet tons of people- all of them share some problems, we try to help them with an advice or just give them a shoulder to lean on.We are forced to do a bunch of stuff for somebody;we are constantly taught what we are supposed to do and how we are supposed to do it. Sometimes we get lost in the pace and the chaos of the day, and it comes out we hardly find time to keep up with our daily tasks and not to mention the time for ourselves. Well I've found the solution to the problem-WORKING OUT! For me my practice is the time just for me! The time when while running,jumping,lifting weights or you name it, I outrun my problems,it is I and my thoughts...It is me who is the boss-I controll everything . The time when everything is the way I want it to be! The time when everything depends on me-I choose whether to give up or keep going when I feel tired, whether I will give in to weakness or show some character and finish my workout and then get the feeling of self accomplishment and self improvement!

Working out has always helped me overcome the obstacles which life throws on my way! I treat every hardship just as a tough workout. A workout which requires a little bit more concentration and motivation. A workout which requires from me to give my all, suffer some pain, and get done with it! A workout that when you finish and walk out of that gym you feel like you've become stronger and ready to face even harder things!

I've felt it a thousand times-the feeling that makes you wanna quit;the mind that is telling you to skip a couple reps...but if I have given in to it, I would have cheated on nobody but myself.

It is not just about the sport itself. It is so much more.Sport gives me the opportunity to compete and strive to be the best I can be. Workouts never fail to challenge my skills or test my resolve. It's in the gym where I can lead with confidence and guide with heart. It's the place where I have always felt I could make a difference.And the thing that I have realized but you who judge me haven't is that it makes a difference not only there-in the gym...it makes a differense in everything in my life!..
...sport strips away personality, letting the white bone of character shine through. Sport gives players an opportunity to know and test themselves!

Don't judje yourself through someone else's eyes

 Every now and then everybody has some doubts about himself/herself and the things he/she does. It can be a pretty difficult moment. What could make it worse is if the people that surround you instead of encouraging you, make you doubt yourself twice as much! 

It is sad when people we care for, do not approve the things we like, the life we lead and the dreams we have. That puts more pressure on wheather we are going on the right path or we should take a turn and change the direction. 

I've been thinking... they are not happy with what I am doing and what I am aiming for...but the thing is am I happy?!. If so... why would I put myself down for what other people think? Why would I doubt my dreams,my priorities, what makes me happy? Should I take their words and make a turn...and fit in their standards for living?

I am only 21years old...but I have realized one thing, and it is that no matter what, you are the only person that is gonna be with you, your whole life! Everybody else will come and go...there are just few people that are gonna stick with you and be there for you no matter how bad you screw it up, or how great you become! But YOU are the person that should be happy with yourself. You are the person that determines wheather your life is worthy or wasteful! You should follow your own heart not people's opinion.

History has seen so many that neglected their heart and their aspirations and followed the crowd... and you know what? None of them was happy. All of them struggled their whole life trying to fit in a place that was not the one for them. 

I truely believe that no matter what one's dreams are there is a friend for everybody, a leaning shoulder for everybody and a place for everybody! A place where  the people that surround you will never let you doubt yourself. A place where others will be the same as you. A place where you won't need to explain why you are you and why you like the things you do. A place where you will be accepted for the person you are!

Till you find that place I encourage you to keep believing in yourself, to keep doing what you are doing. I encourage you not to judje yourself through someone else's eyes and to never make other people's opinion your reality!

Live like a candle which burns itself but gives light to others

      I've been sitting here all day reading... I had a little surgery yesterday and lost a little more blood than    planned so today I am forced to sit like an old old lady tired from life doing absolutely nothing! So as usual I am contemplating on life and the way we are supposed to live it...

Three days ago my grandma also had a surgery and I left her in the hospital. On the other day I was supposed to pick her up and drive her home...but in the evening I received the bad news that i was also going to have a surgery...and actually a couple surgeries... so I wasn't in the best mood... I'd say I am mentally strong but I always need that time just for myself to suffer the pain alone so I can overcome it and then move on...

I could not get any sleep the whole night. I felt so tired and confused I did not even wanna go and pick up my grandma from the hospital in the morning...I was thinking up some ways to ask somebody else to do it instead of me...

And then I felt so selfish... was I gonna get better if I stayed home, feeling hopeless and sad? Sure I wouldn't! But if I had not gone to pick up my granny she would probably be sad... so I decided I was going to neglect my selfpitty and try to make somebody else happy.

I went early in the morning, bought a rose for her on the way to the hospital. I left the flower in the car and went inside to take my grandma's stuff. She seemed kind of sad. I was sad myself but I tried to smile so she could feel better. We went to the car and I opened the door for her...and there was a big red rose waiting for her...my granny's face was shining...she was so happy. She laughed the whole way home and obviously forgot about the pain she was feeling...

...and guess what? That made my day too! So now there were two sad souls that were now shining...and what was the cost of it? Just a red rose... :)

My point is that people do not need a lot to be happy...it is the little things that make our life meaningfull and whole...

And when you are about to make the decision to feel sorry for yourself or make somebody's else day better....just go ahead and light up their life...you will be brightened by their light too... :)))

If only...

If only I was taller!If only I was more flexible! If only I had more time! If only I had more money! If only I was stronger! If only I was thiner! If only it wasn't so cold outside! If only I wasn't so tired! If only I was smarter! If only I have started earlier! If only I could be faster! If...If...If...till when?

These days "If only" seems to be the most used expression...everybody is making excuses...everybody wishes for something to have been different....everybody blames situations to be the reason for failure...everybody is hitting their heads in the wall hoping to come up with an appropriate excuse why it AIN'T going to happen...

Since when did life become such a burden?!. Why are most of us always wishing for something to have gone in a different way?Why do we spend our lives wishing for something,feeling sorry for ourselves,blaming people and situation for where we are standing now or more likely for where we are NOT standing now...

Wouldn't life be much easier if we changed the "if only" with"How could I"....How could I have more time?How couldI compensate for being slow,for being short? How could I earn more money...and actually make a change!

Seems like we are forgetting we are THE human-the most intelligent creature in the world... aren't we supposed to use our heads and turn failure in motivation,success in inspiration, obstacles in possibilities...?

If only people had the drive...the courage...the desire...the commitment...devotion...will...faith...if only...

You will never know half of the things I will never forget..

I was reading something that got me thinking about people, the obstacles they overcome and the accomplishments they reach... walking on the sidewalk, in the mall, in the supermarket, in the office or you name it...you meet hundreds of people...you pass by them and see what they are now, but you could never guess what they used to be...and let's take it a little more personal...I am gonna talk about myself...

You see me everyday and probably you judje me for the things I do or the things I don't... you are looking at me thinking I am not good at that but I have a God givven talent for something else...but you know what? You do not know anything about me!... Do you know about those days that I will never forget? Do you know about those days I could hardly find strength to get out of bed and face another day? Do you know about those days I could hardly wait for bedtime so I could fall asleep and escape reality? Do you know about those times I was supposed to achieve something great but I tripped right before the finish? Do you know about the dreams that shattered in front of my eyes? Do you know about the stabbing pain I felt? Do you know about the hopeless days? The aimless life?The forced smiles....and hidden tears?!.

...the point I want to make is that we see people and we rush to judje them but we never know what they got through....you see somebody doing something and you mock him or her for not being the greatest...but can you see through his or her eyes? Do you know how far they walked to come to the place where they are standing now? Do you know how much strength and courage they needed to be where they are now?..You will probably never know half of the things they overcame to be the people they are today...but you know what? They deserve to be treated with dignity and appreaciation! They deserve to be valued for their achievements no matter how big they are!

You are nobody to judje people and belittle their ambitions!...truely great people treat others for what they could become but not for what they are!